Suggesting the wrong place for a first date could turn you into a red flag – Omae
A lot of people still think that the first date is where they show off how much money they earn by taking first dates to the most expensive restaurants or blowing off money by buying out the entire place and then are somehow shocked when they’re not called back.
Then again, what do you expect when you act like it’s a campaign and not a date?
But don't worry, by the end of this, you'll be a charmer.
1. PICKING A LOCATION:
Talk to them and get to know exactly what they fancy, because a first date is more impressive when it actually means something.
For instance, if your date is someone that loves art, taking them to an art gallery that is having an opening for a free painting class would be an amazing setting for a date.
Pro tip; sneaky q and a could solve your problems:
If you’re still having trouble with knowing exactly what your soon-to-be date would prefer, you could have them engage in a Q and A where you could ask them to tell you the story of their worst date.
That way, you know exactly what to avoid!
2. DON’T DRESS OUT OF THEME!
To avoid being too overdressed to take a romantic walk or being too casual to make that expensive reservation, ensure that you know exactly where the date will occur.
Surprise dates don’t help anyone, so please don’t do it!
So make sure to ask or inform your date of the itinerary to prevent fashion fails. Please!
3. KEEP TO TIME!
Remember, your first date is your first real chance to make an impression! So please be early and unless there is a genuine reason to be late, don’t be because it gives the message that you are not taking things as seriously as you should.
Nobody wants to feel like a waste of time!
A pro tip: if something comes up and is so important or urgent that you have to cancel, make sure to reschedule, and a nice gesture helps too. Like getting their favorite bottle of wine delivered to their doorstep!
4. TAKE CHARGE OF YOUR NERVES:
There is nothing bad about letting them know that you are nervous about the date beforehand or even then. Just because you're nervous doesn't mean you should panic.
Yeah sometimes that girl screaming, laughing and snorting isn’t noisy she’s just so nervous she’s losing it!
Also you might be surprised to hear that they feel the same way and will help you with it.
5. COMPLIMENTS GO A LONG WAY:
Nothing makes a person feel appreciated like compliments and positivity! Telling her that her dress looks amazing or that his suit is dashing would really go a long way in getting them to feel a bit at ease. But be careful to not overdo it, you don’t want to come on to them too strong.
Nobody likes a sleaze!
Pro tip: Try to pay attention to details and compliment things that most people overlook.
6. AVOID MONOPOLIZING CONVOS - IT’S NOT A SPEECH!
This cannot be overemphasized; you are not giving a speech, and it’s not a contest for who can be the most impressive. Let them speak and listen to what they have to say.
And here’s a tip:
one way to give the impression or to let them know you’re listening is to repeat what they say. Plus, you could try asking simple questions that relate to the discussion.
For instance, asking him cute questions about that dog he said he loves.
7. DON’T FAKE IT!
If you don’t like something or you feel like the date could be improved, say something.
You feel like the location could be less fancy? Let them know, because one mistake you will definitely regret afterwards is that you had the chance to experience the best date ever and didn’t take it.
Also, if there is something you are uncomfortable with or unhappy about, you should call their attention to it because that dark cloud hovering could ruin the entire date. Plus, your comfort and fun are just as important as theirs.
8. SOMETIMES THROWING YOUR MONEY AROUND IS MORE OF A TURNOFF THAN ANYTHING IMPRESSIVE:
While spending money on your date is great, overdoing it when unsolicited is not as attractive.
Some people want to see how much you're worth, and others would rather have a connection with you.
So get to know your date to avoid making them and yourself uncomfortable
9. PLEASE KEEP YOUR HANDS TO YOURSELF!
Ladies, gents, and individuals Nothing is more embarrassing than not being called back because you were acting like a prepubescent teen!
Never touch anyone in a way that is inappropriate for a public place on a first date, irrespective of where you are, because it is uncomfortable and a huge turn-off for a high percentage of the population.
10. DON’T FORGET TO HAVE FUN!
Yes, it’s a date, but don’t forget that it’s also just you trying to have a great time and share a great moment with someone, so don’t forget to relax and let loose a little, because having a great time is a priority.
Enjoy!
So Informative...and fun to read.
Thank you!
Thanks for the tips, would put it to use